it's random time again.
was doing some reflections on the things that had happened arnd me these few days.
shant be mentioning names here.
warning- it's gonna be a long entry.

// story of a boy and a ger.

the ger had some probs with her phone and so she used her mom's phone to msg her bf.she clarified with her bf that at the beginning she was using her mom's phone.
this carried on for a few days,on and off.
one particular night she msged her bf asking bout academic stuffs.
then her bf answered.but he added another sentence to his reply too.
"who are you?"
man.
the ger was SUPER pissed.
and the nxt day she took the guy's phone and deleted everything that was bout her in his phone.
now.
many of us would think that the ger is being very unreasonable.
the guy was probably tired or could have just happen to forget her mom's number.
plus it's only a minor mistake that he made.
surely there's no need to punish him liddat right?
but,
look beyond the surface.
ask urself.
how many phone numbers do u rmb?
technology is so advanced nowadays that when u want to sms someone u'd just go to his name and press press press and wait fot the "message delivered" signal before throwing ur phone aside again.
do u actualli even have a vague idea of the number of the person whom u just msged?

sadly,
the above eg just illustrated how much the person means to u.
if u really treasure a person,
u'd take the effort to memorise his/her number.
for myself,
i dont have a excellent memory.
those who know me will definitely agree with me. :P
but,
there are a few numbers which i commit my 100% memory to.
and i am ashamed to say, there are some 90% ones too =x

i rmb myself telling eugene,
that if i rmb someone's number then sth is wrong.
either i have a motive [ heh heh heh ] or that the person is someone whom i really treasure. (:
95% of the time it's the 2nd case =p


// flirting vs socialising

i was sitting in the canteen with my friends.
then they started commenting on the group of ppl that was sitting beside our table.
there were three and a girl talking happily away.
and one of my friends commented, " what is so attractive abt the girl that the three guys seemed so attentive towards her?"
the rest agreeded and started commenting too.
i looked over and kept quiet.
and went back to my food.
cos` i could tell that the girl was socialising with her friends.

well.
it is often difficult to draw the line btwn flirting and socialising with someone of the opp sex.
everyone has their own definitions of the two terms above.
and there's no absolute right or wrong in this world.
but,
the message that i want to bring is,
what may seem like a causal remark might have a long lasting impact on someone else.
esp when u dont even noe the person at all.
imagine urself in the girl's shoes.
do think before u comment.


// pained.
listening is the minimal that i can do for u.
sigh.